“Life is difficult. This is a great truth, one of the greatest truths….Life is a series of problems. Do we want to moan about them or solve them?” (M.Scott Peck)
Few of us would describe ourselves as resistant to, or indeed free of problems.They affect us all. For some they are bumps in the road, to others major roadblocks around or over which it may seem impossible to navigate a path.
Whether you have been experiencing long term difficulties or have been struggling more recently with a relationship, with distressing thoughts, feelings, or with unhelpful behavior patterns, a session with an experienced, empathic, non-judgmental counselor can provide a much needed fresh perspective.
Often referred to as ‘talk-therapy’, counseling at IDL offers a safe place in which to explore your concerns and consider options for managing and dealing with the symptoms.
At the heart of our work with clients is a focus on the care and maintenance of a confidential, close, trusting and respectful relationship. The sessions are a collaboration, a shared process of gaining a deeper understanding of your particular situation.Within the safety of the therapeutic relationship, you can feel free to explore your struggles and, importantly, the contexts in which they arise. Together with the client, our role is to help you improve your relationships, learn to cope more effectively or simply to feel better without violating your core values or deeply held principles.
Your job is to create your own individual objectives for being in therapy and our job is to help you reach them.We have many tools to help.
With some clients this may mean a more non-directive process of self-examination to gain insight into the cause of difficulties with the aim of removing emotional blocks.
Other clients may require a more directive approach, helping them let go of counterproductive behaviours whilst identifying hidden inner resources, for example untapped or forgotten skills, or learning new ones.
At IDL, we specialize in a range of common issues including depression, anxiety, stress, low self-esteem, grief, life transitions and relationship and family difficulties. We use an integrative approach, drawing on key evidence-based therapies, notably systemic marriage and family therapy and cognitive behavior therapy.
Marriage and Family Therapy
Marriage and family therapy is a systemic approach which works from the premise that people’s lives are inextricably intertwined and that a problem needs to be seen as embedded within the context of a family (or couple) as a whole, rather than within a single individual. Family therapy recognizes that our greatest survival strategy is our interconnectedness and it works to encourage change and development within the whole system.
A marriage and family therapist aims to raise awareness of the uniqueness of individual perspectives within a system of relationships, at the same time seeking new and constructive ways for people to support each other.
A systemic approach can provide healing for individuals as well as couples and families.
A central premise is that our families remain with us wherever we go. However, for many, unresolved emotional reactivity to our family of origin is the most important unfinished business of our lives and has long-term implicit effects on our present relationships and functioning.
By helping clients to separate present from past and eliciting new meanings, stories and choices, family therapy promotes change and resilience.
Cognitive Behavioural Therapy
Commonly known as CBT, Cognitive Behavioural Therapy focuses on the way people think and act in order to help them overcome their emotional and behavioural problems.
A central concept is that you feel the way you think.
Therefore CBT works on the principle that people can live more happily and productively if they’re thinking in healthy ways.
CBT involves identifying thoughts, beliefs and meanings that are activated when individuals are feeling unhappy or distressed.By assigning less extreme, more helpful and accurate meanings to negative events, people are likely to experience less extreme, less distressing emotional and behavioural responses.
- Marriage and Family Therapy:
- Couples and Relationship distress
- Adolescent issues
- Family of origin difficulties
Family life changes and transitions
- Cognitive Behavioural Therapy:
- Anxiety, Stress and Phobias
- Depression, Self-Confidence and Self Esteem
- Life cycle and transitions
- Bereavement, grief and loss